Motherhood

Overcoming Anxiety

Overcoming Anxiety with Mindfulness Therapy

By Sarah Hensley

BA, Grad Dip Psychology, Grad Dip Counselling, Psychotherapy & Diploma of Clinical Hypnotherapy

General Anxiety Disorder (GAD) is a very common condition that affects many of us at some time in our lives. At any one time it is estimated that nearly 15 per cent of the Australian population (around two million people) has been diagnosed with GAD and are actively seeking treatment through medication or some form of cognitive therapy.

In essence recurrent anxiety is a form of intense worrying about health, work, fear of the future or a wide range of situations that may occur in the future that creates an immense amount of emotional suffering. So what can we do to control our anxiety levels?

It is important to understand that anxiety, like most emotional reactions, has a structure.

We are all familiar with the patterns of recurring negative thinking: the thought loops that maintain and amplify worry and anxiety. This internal dialogue can be relentless and often hits us in the early hours of the morning, if we can sleep at all! This negative thinking tends to solidify into generalized beliefs about the future, about ourselves and other people that takes on a life of their own. We become consumed by worry about things that may never happen. But, most importantly, the worry thinking does not in any way help us deal with the objective reality of things that need our attention. In fact the reactive thinking makes us less able to cope, leaves us feeling drained and confused.

Clearly, the path to controlling anxiety must involve changing these internal negative thought loops and beliefs. However, most people find this extremely hard to do.

Mindfulness is a therapeutic technique that emerged from Eastern philosophy and encourages us to live fully in the present moment. Western psychology has borrowed many of the concepts and using aspects of Cognitive Behavioural Therapy (CBT) works to make a distinction between who we are and what we think. So often what we think is going to happen, what we think other people are thinking and our own inner judgements and criticisms make life seem more stressful than it really is.

Focusing on releasing the trapped, frozen emotional energy that has become attached to habitual thinking is one of the primary focuses of Mindfulness Therapy. First we train ourselves to identify these negative thought reactions. This is most important, because we cannot change what we cannot see.

Therefore, we must make our reactions visible by paying very close attention to catch them as and when they arise. But after mastering this, we shift our attention away from the content or story that forms the cognitive structure of the anxiety reaction to the emotional feeling quality that gives it power. This is called “sitting with the emotion.” We learn to sit with our anxiety, without getting caught up in further reactivity and thinking, or in trying to attack the negative thoughts. We are, in fact, learning to turn our attention towards the reaction, and this changes everything.

Mindfulness Therapy is well researched and evidence-based. A recent study* took a sample of anxious subjects and treated one group with Progressive Muscle Relaxation and thought suppression and a second with Mindfulness Therapy. Both groups showed equal post-treatment improvement in the clinical and daily self-report measures. However, mindfulness participants reported better emotional meta-cognition (emotional comprehension) and showed improved indices of somatic and autonomic regulation (reduced breathing pattern and increased vagal reactivity during evocation of cardiac defense). These findings suggest that mindfulness reduces chronic worry by promoting emotional and physiological regulatory mechanisms contrary to those maintaining chronic worry.

EXERCISE

1. Sit down and get comfortable. Close your eyes. Allow yourself to relax and practice basic mindfulness of breathing to steady the mind.
2. Open the field of your awareness until it feels like a large space.
3. Introduce an anxiety emotion into this space and experiment with just sitting with it as you would with a friend: looking and listening very carefully with interest and an open mind.
4. Find the colour that best fits the feeling.
5. Experiment with surrounding that colour with another colour. Try the exact opposite colour first and notice the shift in feeling intensity of the anxiety.
6. Develop this imagery and try other modifications in size, position and movement.
7. Continue monitoring the change in intensity on a 1-10 scale. When the anxiety has reduced by at least 50% open your eyes and take a break before returning for another round.
8. Repeat the whole process 5 to 10 times for 3 to 4 days. Notice how your perceptions change each day.

Now, of course it is easier to do this with a skilled mindfulness therapist, but you will probably be quite surprised at how quickly things change once you get down to the detailed sensory level, made possible through focused mindfulness.

*‘Treating chronic worry: Psychological and physiological effects of a training programme based on mindfulness’ (Delgado, L. C., Guerra, P., Perakakis, P.,Vera, M. N., et al. (2010). Behaviour Research and Therapy, 1-10.)

 

Putting Eedi to Bed Night 3 of Exp

It’s 8.50pm, a little late, yes, I got home from work late, dinner was late now bed time is late. Oh well!

We’ve read two stories and now I’m sitting by the door with laptop on knee as that was the arrangement we came to together. Eedi and I had a discussion about how we were going to change the evening routine so it worked for both of us, not just her.

THE BACKGROUND:

My little darling is three and a half, I’m six months pregnant with number two and have been lying with her until she’s asleep and promptly falling asleep for the night myself. I have to say, all the extra sleep has done wonders for my complexion but the night just goes, presto it’s morning again and I’ve got nothing done – so – with another little one on the way – I thought it was time to change the routine.

Initially Eedi didn’t want to talk about it, but she came around to discussing different options… I could continue to sleep with her till she fell asleep (her pref), she could put herself to sleep entirely (that would be amazing – she was so not into that), Daddy could put her to sleep sometimes (she only wants me)… no no… it wasn’t looking good but then…

We came up with – I would read her some stories in bed, then I would work on my computer near the door so she could see me and she’d fall asleep by herself with the bed side lamp on. This solution worked for both of us – in theory!

CURRENTLY:

She’s come over for an extra cuddle, now we’ve said “sweet dreams” to each other and she’s gone back to bed. It seems she has already passed out – wow this would be fast if this is the case.

The first night we tried it (two nights ago) she fell asleep in two seconds and I was stoked. Last night it took more like 15-20 minutes – and tonight – I can hear the deep breathing – I think she’s gone already.

Bingo! Thanks “Redirecting Children’s Behaviour” by Kathryn Kvlos – I think that’s how you spell her name, I’ve lent the book to a client it’s so good. It’s all about connection parenting and how you can both get what you want and work through stuff together – I love it – have read it about three times.

Over and out people – my baby is asleep! I’m clocking off – it’s 855pm :)

Yummy Nutritious Lunch Box Ideas

Their food need to be delicious, nutritious and make them feel full. It can be hard initially because you’re not used to it, or have got into habits for a whole pile of reasons or your child is picky but it’s so worth the effort to get back on the nutrition track. Your child will be more attentive in class, they’ll feel better and be in a better mood for you at the end of the day. It’s the ultimate in health prevention!

Rebecca & her daughter Eedi

I remember being at school and feeling starved by recess, which is when I’d fill up on a small packet of chips, maybe a biscuit or two and some fruit. It did nada for my concentration and wasn’t satisfying. I would often feel a bit dizzy I’d get so hungry, which meant I needed more protein and certainly couldn’t concentrate on school work.

There is quite a gap between breakfast and recess, even more so when parents work or when kids start going to high school, so getting into good habits early will set them up well for life. Their lunch box needs to be filled with nutritional food. Of course it would be great if your kids had breakfast that started with some protein to kick off their day too!

Some suggestions for your child that will nourish their brain as well as taste buds and tummy include the following… where possible, get them to help you prepare the food as their input will mean there is a higher chance they’ll eat it:

RECESS:

  • Hard boiled organic free-range egg
  • Corn fritters (pop chickpeas in when making to increase protein levels)
  • A mix of sunflower seeds, pepitas, dried cranberries and shaved coconut
  • Miso soup, Free-range Chicken soup, Lentil soup in winter
  • Blanched carrot sticks, sugar snaps and snow peas
  • Fruit in season (check the side list) Blue berries, Strawberries, cut up apple, mandarins, grapes & cherries.
  • Cherry Tomatoes
  • Falafel (made with chickpeas so a good protein hit)
  • Savoury muffins: Pumpkin and basil, Honey and carrot (when cooking you can pop in some ground Chia seeds which are packed with anti-oxidants).

LUNCH:

  • Cooked tuna sushi
  • Wraps & Sandwiches with hummus, sardines (brain food) or salmon or free-range cold meats and lettuce
  • Instead of meat and fish you could also try tempeh and lentils for their protein fix in the wrap.

The key to lunch is that it’s packed with protein. So if your child is only into cheese or vegemite, it’s time to look at other ways of getting it in. You can buy tuna spread which is a good start to broadening their pallet.

by Rebecca Mar Young – Acupuncture, Chinese Herbs & Chinese dietary therapy for women and children