Ladies, I have wanted to write this blog post for the longest time because I get a lot of questions about orgasm for birth in clinic. Most of the pregnant women I see are interested to know more when I talk about the benefits of orgasms when preparing for birth and during birth.
Ears prick up with the mention of something that feels really good and will help to reduce the intense sensations that go along with birthing a baby. Why wouldn’t it pique your interest? It’s the antithesis of what many women know as the feedback loop in labour: you feel fear, that produces tension, which produces pain, which produces more fear and more tension and more pain and it funnels in on itself and doesn’t feel great. Your body gets tighter, more closed and is in more pain. It’s not fun.
Getting the oxytocin flowing like crazy in your body is just what you need to break this cycle of fear and pain, and having orgasms is one of the best ways to get you there. I like to suggest that women start the process of stimulating oxytocin in the weeks leading up to birth because:
- The uterus has increasing numbers of oxytocin receptors that are there waiting to be connected with oxytocin itself, to get the ball rolling to start labour.
- Having more oxytocin flowing in your body prior to birth feels good and it’s important to get in as much of that feel-good factor as you can in the lead-up to birth.
- The more you practice orgasming pre-birth, the easier and more natural it becomes, which means it will be easier to give orgasms a go during pre-labour and even during labour itself. That’s right – you can orgasm during childbirth. More on that below.
- According to lots of feedback I’ve had from women, orgasm really works to get labour started, ease birth pain and makes women feel pretty great when they’re doing one of the most awesome tasks in the world – birthing a human.
Orgasms Don’t Have To Mean Sex
Some women say to me, I really don’t feel like having sex right now. I hear you on that, but you don’t have to. Orgasm can be reached with the help of your partner, by yourself or you can use a discreet vibrator so you don’t need to do anything much at all.
There’s a whole movement that has started around orgasm for birth called Orgasmic Birth. When I first heard about it I thought: “Beep, are they kidding? That’s crazy!” When I looked into it more deeply though, it was more about making birth pleasurable and that’s different for every woman. Okay, I’m listening again.
I was so intrigued by it I spoke to the founder of the movement, Debra Pascali-Bonaro, who has co-written a book and made a film about Orgasmic Birth. We interviewed her for our Bumps Births Babies online conference. Boy was that a talk. You can listen to Debra’s Bumps Births Babies talk here.
I remember that Debra was telling us about her early days as a doula (a birth support person). She was with a couple who said to her that she might hear something in the birthing room she’d never heard before. Debra said, I think I’ve heard everything there is to hear, and they said, No, we really don’t think you have. There’s going to be a mechanical vibrating noise. Oh, Debra said, Okay, you got me. Haven’t heard that before. But she was all for it and that lady went on to have an incredible birth. And the rest is history.
Your Personal Orgasm For Birth Kit – Recommended Resources
- So if this has you thinking, hmmm, I’m interested to see more, learn more, hear more, you may want to check out this video about orgasming during birth. (Warning: Not safe for work or young viewers.)
- Since I get a lot of requests, I’ve checked out some suggestions of where you might like to purchase a discreet vibrator. This is purely independent research and we are not affiliated in any way, nor can we guarantee, um, satisfaction – you will need to make all judgements for yourself!
- Don’t forget to check out the incredible online interviews in the Bumps Births Babies Home Study Package. There’s so much valuable info in there to be gained about orgasm for birth, natural labour and birth, pregnancy advice and tips for new mothers.
- And here’s Debra Pascali-Bonaro’s film Orgasmic Birth if you’re interested in seeing it.
Are you intrigued by the idea of orgasm for birth, or have you experienced it? We’d love to know. Leave a comment – don’t be shy, we’re all ladies in here.